NOMTW – Some people have an aversion to getting therapy, and some people seem to think that because it is such a stigma where they live, it must be one in all the Jewish communities. Not everyone has objections to getting help or getting help for their kids. I know many (more than 4) therapists who are booked solid with frum people. But I am also in the healthcare field and I am very leery of recommending psychological help or even MSW’s unless I REALLY know them and many of their clients.
The reason for this is because there are many who are not effective but will not admit they are going nowhere. This can be damaging to an already stressed relationship. There are also those who have very specific outlooks and treat through that lens. I work with troubled kids and see lots of parenting I disapprove of, but it is out of my hands to change it. If a therapist believes your path is unhealthy, he will push you toward his view of health. This can be a big problem when stringent lifestyles are brought before him. I do know therapists who encouraged some clients to “be true to themselves” even though it involved pursuing lifestyles that were not Torahdik.
I am NOT discouraging therapy by any means. I push for professional help when needed. I do know many people, however, who see therapists and DO NOT KNOW that they have the right to change therapists if they feel they are getting nowhere (legitimately). I am just trying to explain MY experiences with why many are leery, cautious or distrustful. This is meant as a GENERAL overview from my vantage point only. (But I hope it helps)