@s2021: With all due respect, the vast majority of Jewish sources show that “potching”, reasonably and properly used, is very much a part of chinuch, traditionally. For some recent relatively strong views which might make you uncomfortable, I would refer you to Rav Dessler on the subject.
I am aware that some contemporary rabbonim frown on it, but others certainly don’t, and those that disapprove generally say that it is because things have changed in this day and age and a different approach is needed, not the potching is an inherently bad chinuch tool. I certainly understand that some families follow that, but it is simply incorrect to flatly state that “potching is never chinuch.”