“Little I Know”: A few questions.
1) What makes you believe the tactics marriage therapists or counselors are trained on and practice are actually effective and helpful rather than ineffective or even unhelpful and counterproductive?
2) What makes you believe rabbonim are not helpful?
If it is based upon the “stories” your therapist friends told you (or anecdotal stories), of course that is their opinion of their field. And their negative opinion of rabbonim. Yet if you spoke to rabbonim instead of your friends, they may tell you how therapists inflicted more damage than help, and how the rabbonim are busy fixing up what the therapists ruined.