Reply To: Rabbonim and Shalom Bayis Problems

Rav Pam was exceptional. There are and have been others who have demonstrated incredible insight and skill. The issue here is that the majority of rabbonim have their maalos and skills, but this work is not among them. With this statement, I am not denigrating them one iota. Their areas of expertise are elsewhere. Not every posek is qualified in Choseh Mishpat or in Mikvaos. Some are. If you’re building a mikva, you need to seek the guidance from someone with that specialty.

There is a conference that takes place every few years sponsored by the Agudah called the Business-Halacha Conference. There are several sections of presentations, one of which is mental health. In this, there have been presentations by panels consisting of rabbonim and professionals on this subject. Many new rabbonim complain about the roles into which they are thrust without preparation. The chief issue – shalom bayis.

Back to point #1. What can we do to compensate for the loss of Rav Pam ZT”L?