The little I know –
“NJ_Mom:
We begin the process with rabbonim because the get should be done first. I don’t know laws in NJ (if that’s the jurisdiction where this couple is), but there might be a get law as in NY.”
There is No “Get” law in Jersey – speaking from experience.
How come the “Get” law in NY isn’t called forcing the “Get” on the woman, which we don’t do acc. to Halacha?
Of course on the man it’s a good thing!