shlishi:
You appear to support an abusive/dominant relationship as consistent with a Torah based marriage. That, my friend, is a grave distortion, one that should make you shiver. There is NOTHING in Torah that excuses abuse, whether in the forms of actions (verbal, sexual, physical, etc.) or in the nature of the relationship. I consider the use of Torah sources to push such an agenda ???? ???? ????? ??? ?????. It is blasphemous to convert the Torah that stands for Shalom into a tool to excuse and justify this abusive form of dominance.
There are particular roles for husbands and wives, and there are vast ranges of halachos based on this. Degrading a wife, subjugating her, making demands on her as one might do on a slave, have no place in a Jewish marriage. No reader should get the idea that such behaviors and attitudes are supported by the various references you provided.
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