Reply To: Who are the Quiet Girls Supposed To Marry?

yankdownunder, you remind me of someone I know who had three daughters in their upper twenties about ten years ago. He used to say “Ven es vet Kummen, vet es Kummen” (when it will come, it will come), referring to Shidduchim for his daughters. He was very easygoing. He now has three single daughters approaching forty, r”l.

There’s a limit to how much Hishtadlus one has to do, but at the same time, there’s a limit to how laid back one should be. G-d helps those who help themselves (you gotta buy the lottery ticket…. you gotta be in it, to win it).