I would like to mention that there is a discussion in the nosei keilim of shulchan aruch whether embarrassing another yid would fall under yehareg v’al yavor. This is because embarrassing another yid may constitute an abizrayhu De’retzicha.
That being said, I think we should aknowledge that many great leaders of the yeshivish community considered handshaking to be yehareg v’al yavor, while many of the great German rabbis would shake the hands of all their congregants, men and women, on the Shabbos.
As such every individual should recognize what community they are part of and accept the psak of their leader.