da- yes it is very hard for a teacher when students are always missing and certain things can be prevented. but, as a teacher it is crucial to be accomodating for all the students who need special services. they feel bad enough having to go for therapy or appointments and it just makes it worse when the teachers give them a hard time.
if it is really difficult, then it is best to speak with the parent and see if anything can be done but if not, there are things which are more important than school work.
i remember coming back to school after having been sick for a few months and still very weak and out of things and all of the teachers kept trying to give me all the work to make up not realizing what an effort it was just for me to sit through the day and i ended up having a relapse because i over did it.
on the other hand, i am a teacher now and i do see the other side and obviously know how hard i and other teachers work. but, i will never make a student feel guilty for being legitimately sick or if he has a once a week appointment. i will work with them and sometimes let assignemnts which are not crucial go.
when a parent has many kids with different specific needs it is very difficult for them to schedule them all out of school. their are many factors including (1) the dr.’s schedule, (2) the parent’s schedule, etc.
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