Hunny:
No one will rely on asking the OTD kid. Several reasons.
1. Who says the answers are reliable?
2. The OTD kid is at least partly rebellious. That anger will likely cloud the judgment, and the real answer may be impossible to reach.
3. The real issues are multiple even for a single case.
While this issue remains one of hot discussion, the notion that there is a single factor that is the “answer” is fantasy.
lebedik yankel:
You raise a powerful point, and this has been echoed by many in the fields of rabbonus, mental health. It is also addressed in many of the recent publications and magazines. One label is “adults at risk”. There is a superficial pattern to today’s Yiddishkeit that is truly alarming. It may not be the talking in shul, but the lack of respect felt for tefila. That is unquestionably epidemic and well deserves major intervention. To whom will we listen when we are told that our avodas Hashem is a masquerade?