Pulease, I asked you about less restrictive forms of judaism, not to make you religious again, but you seem to want to be part of the jewish community and all the people you seem to know are the ones with the harsh view of it.
I cant help you with your family, I wish I could, but I cant. But maybe you can connect to people with similar views to yourself. People who want connection to some form of judaism in their lives but dont want the harsh view.
While almost everyone here will disagree with me, They want all or nothng and when this is the choice many times its nothing. its isnt the worst thing to pick and choose sometimes. You can decide where you want to go in life. You can meet women who got to shul on Shabbos and wear Jeans on Sunday. You can meet people with the same interests as you who are not quick to wag the finger that you will “Burn forever” (Which is NOT a jewish idea anyway).
People here have condemed UJA and certain Rabbis. While I do not agree with many of the positions they have taken, at least they keep people connected. When someone is on the fringe becoming a Chasid or Yeshivish is not an option.