Reply To: When is it time to divorce?

Well the therapist did think that this path to divorce would be “hitting rock bottom” for him. But in actuality, he is now telling ME what he thinks I need to do to make the marriage work this time! Typical addict behavior…blame the other person and pretend you dont have a problem. He is in therapy with a useless, non-Frum woman who doesn’t challenge him (his own admission) on his stuff. I guess he’s just gotten comfortable there. I asked him many times to see an addiction specialist, he has yet to do it. Do I hold out much hope? No. But the Rabbonim are saying to try once more, and if it doesn’t work, then divorce. I feel so sorry for the kids and am scared at the prospect of being alone. He doesn’t use the Internet on Shabbos but at every other time he can be seen with more than one device being used at the same time! He takes his devices to Shul, to shiurim, to weddings (might need it for driving directions!), to the grocery (might need to look up a hashgacha!) and everywhere else. As soon as he gets in from work, his iPad gets plugged in to charge, presumably because he just finished using it. He refuses to install any filters and allows my kids to play games on it against my will, he had past gambling addiction as well, has a very compulsive personality . Sometimes I just really wonder why Hashem gave me this challenge and what He wants me to do with it. My husband seems to think any other wife would not be as bothered by “his stuff” as I am, I doubt that.