I will never ever earn the right of people to say “We take you seriously but if you accuse someone you have to have some proof, you have to have something to back you up becuase we as a society cannot allow you to destroy a persons life based on your word against his”.
A few more Rabbeim have now realized this and a few more smart competent Rabbeim have now decided not to enter the field.
A few more Rabbeim have now decided.
The underpay I could put up with.
The lack of respect I could put up with.
But I can’t risk my life and family.
That was very thoughtfully written, and I very respectfully disagree. That is not how it happens. Nobody gets taken down without lots of unexplained behavior accompanying the accusations, and the Rabbaim who are sincere know full well that those who behave appropriately don’t end up in gihenom. I don’t believe that those who REALLY do help children will worry that this could happen to them. The fear comes from those who don’t want to believe that there was basis for the accusations, but if you keep your behavior above board, Sheker ain lo raglayim.
Thank you for your sincere post. I would like to add a line or two to the middle,
“Another abuse victim sees the cries of “sheker” and seals her pain within,
Another little boy who is suffering sees the angery public and changes his mind about getting help,
Another marriage is destroyed by an abuse victim who can’t get close,
And fears that honesty will label him/her a liar”