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In all fairness to the mother we were warned that she and some of her children- although not the girl or her father- suffer from some sort of severe emotional disorder.
The shadchan, through sheer negligence, told the girl I agreed to go out with her before I gave an answer. When I told the shadchan I wasn’t interested she said it was too late because she already told the girl that I was interested.
After I told my friend what happened; the girls mother called him for information. As hard as he tried to get her to say no, it didn’t work.
I asked my Rebbe if I should go out with her anyway in order to not hurt her feelings but he said that since I never committed it was the responsibility of the shadchan to let the girl know in a sensitive manner.