Wolf-
I don’t want to be responsible for shaking up your marriage, but I am seeing a different perspective in your story. Perhaps she married you because you did not know, and not despite the fact. You see, she always wanted to change her eye color, but never knew what you would think of it. Therefore, when you said you did not know, she was able to run out and get the color-changing lenses she always wanted and pretend that it was her eye color all along.
Check the lens case next time you get a chance and let us know.
🙂