aside from the stupid questions, don’t people realize it is gezel zman?
I remember one such girl called my reference, spoke for half an hour with him and then agreed to go out with me. I turned her down in about 10 seconds because she lived a few states away and for some other reasons. She didnt bother to ask my reference once during the half hour conversation if I would travel for a date.
Another person once called and spoke to my reference for half an hour after which the girl wouldnt go out with me. I guess she liked my reference more than me.
Apparently it is also common to not give your name when you are calling about someone. That’s just rude. It’s one thing not to give the girls name but if you are asking someone to talk to you show some derech eretz and give your name