When I was dating (over 20 years ago) a Shadchan called my mother to ask if they would support. My mother replied that I was in computers – making a good salary – and would support myself. Then the Shadchan (not being satisfied with that answer) asked if I had saved money over the years that I had been working. My mother replied that I had. So the Shadchan suggested that my parents take the money that I had saved and pretend its theirs – and then support me with it!!!
Needless to say – I did not go out with that guy but did live a Kolel life for 15 years.