Goq-i see your posts here and there and my heart goes out to you- nobody will ever understand your pain because nobody is you, with your unique makeup and characteristics.
By the same token, every challenge that a person is given is hard for them to handle, and when people see you bound by your challenges, they will offer whatever advice, help, cheerful ‘pick yourself up by your bootstraps’ homilies, etc. that they can.
They are not being mean or cold-they are just not offering you things that you can relate to at that particular time. The same words may not hurt you at a different time.
It is always advisable to try and focus on the positive aspects of your life, try to energize towards the future rather than obsess about the past – not easy to do, but it is a path to a more optimistic outlook, and a happier life.
Even if you had the most horrible challenge ever, worse than the holocaust, worse than dead children, worse than having to collect money on street corners, worse than losing your job,health, money,spouse, etc….you have the ability (somewhere, very deep deep down….) to take your obviously intelligent capabilities and strength and move forward….
Regarding this specific comment about the Holocaust-i personally can’t imagine going through anything more painful than smelling the burning fumes of your children being gassed with no understanding of why or how long the indignities, starvation, and horror would go on, but it doesn’t mean that the fact that people survived it will soothe all your hurt.
May you find the right tools, the right people, the right words, to give you the strength to forge ahead and find great happiness!