Reply To: Making it financially with less

Even if you are technically correct our midas hachesed should surpass what others are allowed to beg for by us trying to maintain their lifestyle and not judge.

100% agreed. This is for someone (in general, not specific) who wants to follow Halacha, not for me to say “I’m not giving because you have a silver menorah”. Following Halacha is hard, especially when it comes to Mammonus.

One point though. It hurts me when I can’t provide what my children ask because I pay in full, while others who don’t pay full tuition are willing to buy the latest toy (or the “in” clothing), while stiffing the school.

Chesed is a Jewish middah, let’s not muddy the waters by being picky on who’s deserving of our help or what they must do first. On the other hand let’s not forget to focus on job training and creation, financial planning; maybe even a babysitting co-op. And on this thread some pragmatic money-saving advice as I believe was the original intent.

There are Hilchos Chessed just like any other Halachos, and they are “Gufan Shel Torah”. We can not dismiss them just because we feel bad. Hashem wants us to follow his Torah even if it makes us “feel bad” doing so. I have asked many hilchos Tzedaka questions to my Rov, and encourage others to do so as well.