I dont think its a secret that the ‘guy’ or the ‘male’ as you refer to him – essentially controls the relationship at least pre-marriage. That is because girls today are so desperate to get married they will take verbal, emotional (and help me G-d I hope not) physical abuse? even during the dating stage.
I do not think any couple from any crowd sits down at the date’s inception to discuss what lines to cross, etc… and would think things just fall as they please – or as the guy makes it happen.