IMO (humble as it is), the reson for the numerous breakups is very simple. The couple barely know each other, have not spent any meaningful time with each other before the l’chaim, plan to get married too quickly after the vort, and have never learned how to argue constructively. They are apparently pressured into getting engaged by parents and shadchanim who both have agendas, and are fearful of not having another chance. By the time some of them are breaking up, it is the approximate amount of time for many dating couples who have been seeing each other for a few months, to come to realize that maybe they should not get engaged at all. When a couple starts to feel comfortable with each other, they let their hair down so to speak, and thigs come out in conversation or behavior that might not otherwise have been revealed. This process takes more than a couple of weeks. Couple who become engaged after 4 or 5 weeks are still on their best behavior, and do not act naturally with each other at this point. Right or wrong, this is my opinion, although I realize I give a simplistic reason for an ultimately complex issue.
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