Oomis, BTW, those that follow the derech of doing research KNOW that you do NOT call/rely on refernces. Usually we call someone that knows both of us, or like I mentioned a roommate, co-worker, someone that has seen the boy and girl in his/her daily life (not while they know they are being observed). Info we ask doesnt have to do with table cloths or stacking plates…
schlakshammos, I couldnt have said it better myslef.