Hereorthere, I have never heard of a man pressuring a woman into going to a specific career. All the career driven women I know (that you claim are feminists) wanted to do so themselves.
Gitgezungt, there are consequences – there is a black mark on your record.
Some problems that you can’t see on a few dates are verbal and emotional abuse. A friend of mine was dating a guy who seemed awesome for the first 2 months. After that, thigns slowly started to unravel and she broke up with him.
Most people I know look at marriage as forever unless there are problems. I think its somewhat easier to work on your problems when you are married because you are already committed and divorce is an expensive prospect, especially with children. But some things are better not to be entered lightly.