SJSinNYC, The black mark on their record is a deterrent but not enough of a deterrent obviously. If people thought more carefully before making their decision, because the consequenses of breaking a Shidduch were greater than the black mark, we’d have less heartache.
Also, with the Shidduch crisis the way it is, I’ve heard of really good and desirable girls getting engaged to guys who broke more than one engagement, so the black mark doesnt affect the guys half as much as it affects the girls.