there are many cases of divorce that are completely justified, such as clinical abuse.
however, there are such cases, even of clinical abuse, where the couple dealt with it together with a therapist, and are still happily married, and the children are fully relieved that the intended divorce did not happen. i was there, i witnessed the entire thing; the kids, although ablsolutely terrified when the parents fought physically, *begged* their mother to please not allow a divorce.
divorce should be a dirty word in the jewish home, but only as long as it’s theoretical. meaning, the education should be that marriage is forever, etc, etc. but when there is a case of divorce in the community, the community has to be supportive of all the victims, and not vindicitive in any way.