I could go on and on. There will be very few intact marriages if we go with such kind of reasonong.
People change. Love changes.
I think you’re overstating things here. Yes, people change. I’m not the same person that I was when I first met Eeees 22+ years ago. She’s not the same person she was then either.
But we learned to grow *together*. Yes, we’ve had “hot” periods and “cold” periods in our marriage, but I like to think that most people have a vested interest in saving their marriage and will work towards either fixing the problem or adapting the marriage to work around it.
You make it sound like most couples run to the divorce lawyer at the first sign of trouble. I’d be willing to bet dollars-to-donuts that those cases are a very small minority. The vast majority of people, I believe, try very hard to save their marriages and come to a decision to divorce only after much soul-searching, contemplation and quite a few tears.
The Wolf