You make it sound like most couples run to the divorce lawyer at the first sign of trouble.
Wolf, where exactly did I insinuate that couples run to a divorce laywer at the first sign of trouble?
I merely said that there are a lot of ways that there love can be missing from marriages and I don’t think that it’s right to divorce because of it.
The vast majority of people, I believe, try very hard to save their marriages and come to a decision to divorce only after much soul-searching, contemplation and quite a few tears
I never said that people don’t try hard to save their marriage, however they try to save the marriage they way they think the marriage is supposed to be, not the way it was meant to be.
Not everybody is Wolf and Eeees. Your marriage is your marriage. Every two individuals make up a different kind of marriage. Hashem is the one that ultimately decides what kind of marriage each person has.
Now I have never installed cameras in every Jewish household to know whether the majority or minority of marriages are filled with love or not, but my gut tells me that part marriages are loving, part are kacha/kacha and part are missing thae love factor. Now if all the marriages that are missing the love factor disolve, it won’t be a pretty sight.
Whoever has a loving marriage realize it’s a bracha, but people are blessed in different ways.
I commend each and every person that is struggling to be happy and content in an unloving marriage and mark my words, you will see, iy”H you will still reap much reward. Chaziek veyameitz!
I know I may sound very callous when I give such advice for others, but I’ve made a lot of lifelong personal sacrifices (no not in the area of marriage) in my life and I’m very proud to have made very difficult but right decisions.