Apparently the Rosh Yeshiva quoted by another poster earlier in this thread disagrees with you. The R”Y told the wife to stay married
With all due respect, I believe that that poster is not privy to all the details in that story.
I think no one really knows what’s going on in someone’s marriage even if one spouse realys information to their freind because
nobody says to their freinds the whole truth and nothing but the truth about these things, especially if they are the guilty party and don’t want to admit it.
Halacha is full of “technicalities.” Every technicality is relevant and binding
And where exactly did I say halacha is not binding?
Halacha dictates every moment of a Jew’s life, however as human beings Hashem gave us common sense too to know how to go anout our BASIC human reqirements without having to call our dayanim.
Maybe your common sense is different than mine. My common sense tells me that if someone hurts me deliberately on a constant basis, I stay as far away from that person as I stay from a shark.