@DY again with the straw man argument i am sensing a pattern here. what i am advocating for is that people ask their rav because in most cases they will be pleasantly surprised and most rabbonim will be willing to work with them. generalized speeches and impractical asifas tend to scare people away. if you notice i was in favor of the flatbush internet asifa and very much appreciated the way it was arranged how the speeches were coordinated and that it was very SOLUTIONS oriented.
“Or maybe they know what they’re doing, to convince as many people as possible to avoid the terrible fate that they have seen many go through. Why should you assume they don’t have a valid reason?”
if that is their reason they are not intelligent people i think it is better to assume that they don’t fully understand the situation. You will convince very few people by being a kanai.