While I maintain “boobie” is a lurker and not some unfortunate spouse whose husband is “addicted to the internet” (a stupid phrase in my opinion), what she (if she really is a she) writes underscores what I wrote. You have an issue with your husband, call your Rav or Rebbetzin dont wring your hands in despair and wonder whether or not to “confront” him.
“I begged him to get help, never saying what I found, only saying that he spends too much time on it. He refuses. He claims he’s totally in control.”
Obviously, he has no desire to spend his time with you, instead he prefers the fantasy world that exists online. Why, is an excellent question to ask yourself, and him.