To you Boobie,
We’re all rooting for you. You’re placed at this unique challenge, because HaShem knows you will be able to handle it. Again, go to that site, the section that deals with your specific issue. I believe they can email him (anonymously) a starter message, something that can pull him in. They have experience. They do. Again, it’s all L’shem Mitzvah!
When these issues involve a spouse it can get painful. Rightfully so. That’s where ???? ???? plays a role. Go to that site. They’ll guide you, ever so compassionately and caring. They’ll provide you with an abundance of support, much more than silly me has to offer.
Please, make the move.
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