Reply To: Should i have been upset/insulted?

Thank you all!

MorahRach: Let me give you an example; after i had a miscarriage in the very early stages of my pregnancy, I was talking to a friend of mine and she said “Thats so sad! At least you didnt see the baby! I lost my baby in the 8th month and they showed me the lifeless body!” As soon as she said that, I didnt feel upset that she minimized my pain, i just felt so sorry for her and consoled her for the rest of the conversation. However, a few days later, i was talking to another close friend and she was telling me how bad she felt for me, then i brought up what the other friend said (without mentioning her name) and she started to tell me how its wrong to bring up your own pain when someone is trying to let out their feelings. And as sad as her situation may be, she cant compare pain…

Bottom line, at the end of this conversation i was so confused and hurt i didnt know what to feel!