miritchka -“However, a few days later, i was talking to another close friend and she was telling me how bad she felt for me, then i brought up what the other friend said (without mentioning her name) and she started to tell me how its wrong to bring up your own pain when someone is trying to let out their feelings. And as sad as her situation may be, she cant compare pain…”
Your last friend is right. We have had this discussion many times previously here in the CR. OTOH, if your first friend would have just thought to herself -“What’s she complaining about -I had/have it much worse”, without actually saying it, there is nothing wrong with her thinking this.