miritchka: I think you should be able to answer the question yourself. First friend made you feel better. Second friend made you feel worse. Trust your feelings. The one who made you feel better was correct. The one who made you feel worse was wrong.
People usually feel better when the speak to someone who went through the same thing they did (even if the other experienced worse). They feel validated and understood. Much more than speaking to someone who didn’t experience same.