Avhaben, your post excellently summarizes decades of knee-jerk draft refusal. The “we” you speak of, however, is fraying at the edges and, possibly, crumbling at the core. Two main things have brought this about: the rapid growth of the frum population and the dawning realization among its members that the rest of Israel is not only quite normal but attractive in positive ways, putting fallacy (I won’t call it “lie”) to the horror stories (as in fictions) that are common coin in this world. Many young frum Yids have abandoned the hate-the-state approach that they were taught. If you keep propagating it as the essence of frumkeit, they’ll abandon frumkeit too.
Your weakest argument is that “the Army doesn’t need us. They are doing fine without us.” Mr. Kuperman terms this a form of conscientious objection. Neither way works when a population group (or in fact its leaders) defines itself as exempt on the grounds of “We’ve got better things to do,” even when for some of us the “things” might really be better.
I think the fear of the draft emanates from something different, expressed in extreme form in a poster I saw in Meron. It proposed the elimination of bein hazmanim because bachurim are able to circulate at that time of year and encounter things that (get this) make them hate the state less. Yes, hate: ???? ??????. The hate rhetoric directed at our country loses its effect once you know the country. And serving in the army is the paramount way of knowing the country — geography, population, and all.
I rest my case.