JayMatt, this is getting a little tedious.
It seems we are agreeing that there are times when protesting is the correct approach.
As for Lot:
Lot would have been destroyed in sedom even though he was not a rasha like his neighbors. Kivan sheNitan and Oy laRasha seem to both apply: Lot did not have his own zechuyos and would not have been saved. This is one reason he was not allowed to look back at those who were being destroyed. However, the Torah states that Hashem “remembered Avraham” and therefore saved Lot. But that was exceptional and if not for that then he would have been destroyed along with the evil people of sedom even though he was very much not like them.
Back to your original post, I think the end of it was a nice thought: that we all have what to work on and should heed that message Hashem sent with Sandy.
But the rest of your post, where you imply that this is the extent of the message, is ignoring Chazal and modern Rabbanim, and this is wrong. There is a time to protest (and “Gay marriage” might have been one of those times) and Hashem does care about the world and acts as He does, as rebdoniel wrote soon after your OP.