The main NYU child study centers in Manhattan and Long island are the best at this in the northeast.They have a FREE lecture series for parents with questions about ADHD one thursday per month and they also have a very comprehensive website explaining various disorders parental concerns, possible diagnosis when/when not to medicate… many therapists and psychiatrists there work with frum kids.
They will be able to give a good second opinion as while they deal alot with adhd they also deal with other disorders as well. From what you describe a second opinion is a must and a good neuropsych eval should be done
It happens to be the next free lecture is in two weeks on this very topic
Thursday, February 28, 2013
The Role of Neuropsychology Assessment in the Evaluation and Treatment of ADHD: Careful Considerations
“Many children and teens with ADHD also have learning difficulties and other complications. This workshop explains what a neuropsychological assessment is; how it can help you to better understand your child; and how to determine when it should be used in treatment and school planning”
The NYU childstudy centers website is aboutourkids.org
NYU Child Study Center, One Park Avenue, 7th Floor, New York, NY 10016 (212) 263-6622
(I know of many students whose lives were changed or finally had a proper diagnosis given after going to the centers)
Re medication: As said above it involves trial and error. Regarding things like no food coloring etc… things like that working have found to be truly isolated or that the the child really did not have adhd
Hatzlacha!