The proper attitude should be to afford the Creator more than a harried, mulitasked mumble while commuting or doing any other chore. He deserves more. Of course there are heterim, but it’s just that – heterim. The proper setting for tefillah should be indoors, in a place conducive to proper kavanah.
Should one be in a circumstance where that is not viable, then it should most certainly be done publicly. No, no need for shame. ????? ?? ????? ??? ???????? ???????, they have a need for shame, MOST CERTAINLY not us.
Proper attention to the Alainu tefillah will most certainly set the standards straight. We thank HaShem for the opportunity and role to call out, to know and to serve Him. We thank Him for not have made us as the nations… For they bow… And then the powerful tefilla of v’Al kain nkaveh. Every word, so precious, it’s worth paying close attention. It will disperse any imaginary “inferior complex”, one may feel in contrast to our neighbors.