LJ that wasn’t his question. He was asking why everyone gets so hung up on finding a fairytale that they forget that they’re marrying a human being.
I personally didn’t ask any of these questions. When I spoke to the shadchan I told her who I was and I told her if she could find someone who has real plans toward achieving the same future as me, I’d be willing to date. And I refused to send a picture so I knew I wasn’t getting anyone more than 20 minutes away from my house.