Gaw- the point of dating is to figure out if two people can build a marriage and home together, to continue passing on the torah and mesorah we’ve lived with for a very very long time. yes, love and and the relationship shebo are integral factors in this being possible, but they are heichee timtzas, not the endgame. to that end, we date with a whole bunch of rules, to allow for a setting in which to best make a decision about the other party. intentionally creating an atmosphere where hormones get involved clouds the vision of the two youngins, and allows for other cheshbonos, ones that may not be in line with the real reason your getting married. thats pshat in the name thing. and in case your answer is “well, i dont feel funny when i call a random girl by her first name”, these guys do/will.
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