luv2Bjewish -“It is just frusturating that society gets hung up on every little detail – did he open the door, did he not, did he take you to manhattan (?!?), did she say this, wear this, do this!!!!! We get so hung up on the details that we dont focus on whats really supposed to be happening – seeing if the other person is compatible for marriage!”
I disagree with this comment. At one time these petty people were not most of the Charedim and even if nowadays they are most -there are still plenty of normal Charedim – that have their heads on their shoulders. And these people aren’t interested in these petty details. The reason that this way of thinking has become popular is because young people (& older people too) are scared to go against the tide. But foolishness is foolishness -if you won’t go out with s/o because they don’t always use silver on the Shabbos table or any other foolish reason -that’s your prob, not mine and I am happy they won’t go out with me. Life is Not about focusing on the little things. Unfortunately a lot of people do focus on little things, but our main focus should be on Yiddishkeit (Torah & Middos)!