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There is a difference in practical halacha though…
A person is required to bless in both situations but: if it is a good situation – the person is required to say ???? ???? ?????? – acknowledging that it is good. If it is a situation which to the human eye seems bad, saying ???? ?????? would be hypocritical. Therefore, a person is required to say ???? ??? ???? – admitting that it is Hashem’s will and that it must be the righteous thing – but not pretending that you’re thrilled with it.