ICOT – I think WE would all have done differently, but I know that many (most?) of the secular world does not agree with us. I have listened to nurses complain at the torture that selfish children put their elderly parents through by not ‘letting them die peacefully’. Many individuals will tell you that they themselves would rather be DNR at that age, and that they would never make their parent “go through that” (meaning CPR). It is a moral judgement we are making as Torah Jews that is not a world view AT ALL in the medical community. I also don’t know that living in a home that does not resuscitate wouldn’t be like signing a DNR.
As an aside, I have heard doctors ask families why they insist on CPR when it will “probably leave them with broken ribs and a punctured lung”.