Let’s put things in perspective here. Once, one crazy extremist spit at a 8 year old girl. Besides for the fact that these people are a negligible extremist faction/cult, let’s not make it sound like this is something that even they do everyday. It happened, the media went crazy, not one “Chareidi leader” said anything to support or condone it, and that was the end of it.
Compare that to a political party, representing the entire D”L community, controlling over tenth of the government, deciding it wants to join the anti-religious faction in forcing their ideals down the throats of the entire Chareidi community, forcing the Chareidim to do what they have long held was prohibited.
Can you really not see why the Chareidi leadership would feel a need to respond to one and not the other?