When are we going to recognize that MOST of it seems to be counterproductive?
Oomis, when will you realize that you’re out of the loop, and that those who use the shidduch system have much better success than those who don’t? Sure, it’s not perfect, and that’s why there is such a commotion about tweaking it, but it’s far better than the hefkerus you suggest, not only tznius-wise, but success-wise.