Well, I personally am a pretty skinny guy, so I’m looking for a girl that’s not so chunky myself and that’s my reason. In any case, I think both many men and women are very superficial, unfortunately. I had a very good friend of mine (who’s a great guy) be turned down twice because he’s not tall enough (he’s like 5’6″ which I think isn’t too bad). BH he’s engaged now, but that did mess him up a little. Similarly I know people who are also GREAT guys and great learners, and the girl rejected him because he isn’t “yeshivish” enough. Her definition of that- he doesn’t have payos and beard, doesn’t go to the store in his black hat, and doesn’t learn in the “mainstream” yeshiva that her teacher’s husband learns in (which is not so mainstream, and is significantly lower in learning than the yeshivah he learns in). So we see that superficiality is all too common and spreads over a vast area of pratim. If it’s something like weight which you can do something about, why not? It’s healthy anyway. I nonetheless apologize on the behalf of the shadchanim (menuvalim) who spoke so mean with you.
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