Reply To: All Children Who Leave Our Community Should Pain Us Equally

Sam2: Are you saying we’re more responsible for the less smart kids, because smarter kids are more self-empowered?

Imaofthree: Amen.

WIY: There is no way to predict it (very similar to predicting who will get married first, actually.)

writersoul: Right, I’m talking from a Yiddishkeit perspective. Of course the most important thing is emotional health.

Veltz Meshugener: Thank you.

For example, if the kid is a drug addict, it’s obvious that his parents beat him. If the kid is at Harvard, it’s obvious that the parents let him read inappropriate books. lol

Ms. Critique who may always know the answers correctly

That is very sad.

The little I know: 2/4 I have heard in real life. 4/4 are variations of things I have heard in real life.

I agree with you that it is a community problem, but it is ALSO a family problem, and ALSO an individual problem. At the end of the day, every person has choices.

Here’s the litmus test. How much effort is invested by a yeshiva that rejects an applicant or refuses to permit a talmid(oh) to continue in their school? How many alumni maintain contact with their rebbeim and teachers long after they left?

Very good point,but not the only reason it is a single issue.