You don’t know where I’m going because you don’t like seeing the truth that frumkeit today is very different than it used to be. Regarding cholov yisroel, in Lakewood in the early days they had cholov stam, breakstone products! Now that would never happen. After the war, the chazon Ish came along and said that the shiurim Jews had been using for hundreds of years weren’t good enough.
If you look at pictures of Roshei yeshivah and their wives from decades ago, news flash: many didn’t wear sheitles. Black hats and uniformity can be the make or break in a shidduch. People have only been looking at lettuce with microscopes in the last few years.
Checking for bugs used to be a chumra, now its mainstream. Ditto for sheitles, mixed seating, and cholov yisroel.” From what my parents tell me, in the 70s and 80s many more weddings were mixed- now that’s a big no-no.
The very texture of religious life has changed after the war, perhaps for the reasons I offered to Torah613. Rav Chaim explains that its a switch from mimetic tradition to didactic. Look those terms up if you need to, but its a powerful argument.