“The reason why a Gucci bag differs from a nice steak is that you are not spending money on pleasure: you are wasting money on status to put yourself over your brother (or in this case sister).”
Disagree with this completely.Many people own designer items that dont even have an outer tag- what do you say about that?
If I buy a lexus but remove the logo- thats okay?? even tho ur original claim that the money is being wasted if its not going to tzedaka, and NOT about people trying to be above one another…
And YES I do think that Rabbis telling people how much to spend on their weddings is completely ridiculous and authoritarian.