I don’t think it’s the short dating period that is to blame, rather it’s either the pressure that is put on them to make a positive decision to get engaged by a shadchan who wants to close a deal, “
That’s exactly why the dating period becomes so short! Pressuring someone to make a quick decision is a mistake in my opinion.
I cannot agree with you on this, Daas Yochid, because dating SHOULD be a natural relationship, like a developing friendship. We have turned it into something highly pressurized and UNnatural for our young people, who are pushed into relationships without having been given the prior tools for forging those relationships.
Again, I respectfully agree that I disagree with you, (yes, even here, in the Coffee Room).